smoking hot

I was skulking around Facebook and realized that some of the same, tired sexist stereotypes about men are still rolling around the universe.  We are pigs but we’re not the mindless beasts it makes you feel better about yourself to assume we are. 

My good friend, Joanna, posted an article about how Megan Fox is bad for women.  The article blamed her and women like her on the fact that women feel the need to emulate her and be like her.  It pointed out that she wasn’t bright and gave terrible interviews.  It’s not like she’s a politician; she’s an actor.  She entertains us.  She’s eye-candy.  I, for one, do not feel any compunction about not looking like Fabio.  I think it’s easier for women to pin their insecurities to the biological reaction men have to breasts than to own up to them.  As an example, we don’t blame you for our anxieties about penis size.

Then there was a (photo-shopped) photo of the President of the United States checking out some scantly clad teenager at a public event.  I made my comment to the reactionary Republican who posted it with my opinion – God forgive me – that the First Lady was ‘smoking hot.’  Someone’s response, I kid you not, was: “michelle obama is smoking hot??? omg, i think i just threw up in my mouth a little bit :(.” I will not dignify the comment by cleaning it up. 

 

I then replied with the fact that it is a little known fact that men really do find smart, articulate women attractive.  I should have said, “secure” men find smart, articulate women attractive.  Yes, Mrs. Obama is a poised and attractive without the ability to disembowel someone in a match up of wits but that ability gives her an edge on a great of other women.  Beauty fades, stupid is forever.  The original poster then dismissed my comment by pointing out that I do not like Sarah Palin.  I do not.  It’s not that she’s Republican or that she isn’t intelligent but that she allowed herself to be used by the Republicans – first to get out the vote and second as the scapegoat for their spectacular collapse in November.  That is neither smart nor attractive. 

As someone who has been fated to go blind there is nothing more terrifying to me than the thought of being stuck for the rest of my life with anyone who was a beauty at dawn and a bore at twilight.  I polled all my male friends, straight and gay, who were online at the time and all of them concurred: a smart, articulate person was the ideal partner while models were still fun to look at. 

Nedenia was the most attractive girl I went to High School with because she is also the smartest person I have ever met, and easily the most articulate.  Yes, she is an incredible beauty and when you peek inside her soul you’ll see one of the most beautiful people you could ever hope to encounter.  I cannot recount all the times her compassion has lead me through the darkest times in my life.  I can also tell you that she’s intimidating.  If Ginger Rodgers did everything that Fred Astaire did backwards, in heels then you can liken Nedenia to doing that vis-à-vis Darth Vader.  Lesser men cannot hold their bowels when confronted with her. 

Angie is going to shoot this down, but she should remember that I said ‘secure’ men.  Once Angie finds a man who can handle the fact that she has a brain the size of a planet then she’ll be happy.  Joanna, I had a crush on you when you were chubby because you’re fascinating and smart.  The scrap-booking fetish was a little off-putting. 

I’m not going to end this by saying that we don’t find physical beauty alluring but I will say that those of who aren’t complete pigs, are just little piglets of men, find a poised, smart, intelligent, and articulate woman attractive.  I resent that insecure women say that we only find what they don’t have attractive when it’s far more unattractive that they’re insecure and would rather blame someone else than take pride in themselves.  If you don’t like being packed in one box, stop doing it to other people.